Self-compassion is the bridge that transforms our struggles into opportunities for growth and success.

“If I Am Not Harsh Towards Me, How Am I Supposed To Achieve?“

A frequent question I get asked when discussing self-compassion or hosting a workshop on the topic. Let us look at it-

We as a culture have been taught never to give up, to work hard towards our goal, to be open to suggestions, and to be critical of what we do. Now there is nothing inherently wrong about that kind of thinking, goals cannot be met until you work towards them. Until you receive feedback about a task and you are serious about it, you cannot progress.

The part where it gets on the unhealthy side of it is when one’s sense of self gets attached to it. Growing up in almost all households something besides these virtues that were taught was these unwritten rules or as Carl Rogers put it ‘Conditions of worth’.

Not only do you have to achieve, but if you do not meet a certain standard, you will not be considered worthy as a person and worthy enough to be loved. It was not just about criticism of your work but also criticism of yourself and how much value you should see in yourself. “Success isn’t only about your achievement, but also about being nice to yourself and rising from helpful response. Get in touch with Self-Pivot for Best Online Therapy to achieve your goal.

Self-Compassion: How to Overcome Harsh Self-Criticism

Having a critical view of one’s identity means a very rigid way of living life. Either you are perfect or you are worthless as a human, either you are achieving everything on a given timeline or else you are not enough as a person. The moment every situation, every experience, and every outcome are seen from an angle of being a defining factor of who you are, the criticism does not help you, it cripples you.

It does not allow you to be okay with your limitations and rectify them, it makes you question yourself; it makes you ask yourself how dare you made that mistake. Does this kind of criticism help? It does not. It further withdraws you from growth and consistency. replace in simple word-Self-compassion is the essential toolkit for navigating the complexities of our era, offering a lifeline of kindness in a world full of challenges.

Criticism helps only when you direct it objectively at a task, separate from your worth or character. Treat it like a project and, as a researcher, figure out how to make it work. When you’re curious and passionate, you’ll find ways to stay accountable, and discipline will come naturally.

Achievement then is not a survival mechanism; it helps you thrive and explore different facets of your mind. You do not get bogged down easily.

The harshness, the rules, and the discipline need to be directed toward the work, only then help you achieve it.

Calling yourself a loser does not get the work done, seeing yourself capable of finding a way out gets the work done. And that is where self-compassion comes in.

Self-Compassion: Learning from Mistakes and Criticism:

Self-compassion is another way of saying that you need to consider yourself human, a human who makes mistakes but can also rectify them, a human who can face limitations but also has strengths to overcome them, a human who can have bad days, but that does not mean they cannot come out of it. When there is self-compassion, the self is also functional. Since it is not personal, all the critical viewpoints can be directed to the task at hand.

Questions to ask yourself-

1. When I look back on my past, what kind of self-dialogues made it impossible to get a task done?

2. When I receive criticism about work, do I blame myself, or do I let it be about the work?

3. When I look back on my past, what kind of words would have helped build confidence?

4. What kind of virtues get the work done?

5. What kind of words would help me become more resilient towards my work?

Conclusion:

In this article, we have seen how Online Therapy Sessions help for success by nurturing Self-kindness. These articles come out straight from a therapist’s room.

Your dose of insights with some questions for reflection. after all, therapy is incomplete without some homework on the side. watch this space for more.